Marriage is a sacred bond between a husband and wife. God praises him self in the Quran because he has created pairs between man and woman (one soul, one nafs to find one another). Man and woman are the same but different and a man needs a woman to complete him self. Love comes from Allah SWT.
Mawadah - love along with compassion & mercy, with caring of the other half.
In the Quran - Garments to one another "hide privacy" "hide embarrassment". Shelter one another from protection of haram. Without close we feel incomplete.
How to go about finding a Spouse
Do not underestimate parents. Parents also look out for your interests. They know more because of age and experience.
Arrange Marriage - Tried and tested for 100s of years. Allowed to talk to one another as long as you are not alone with one another. This should be your first step, try arrange marriage as your first choice.
Hook up Aunties - Sit on phones for hours with nothing to do but talk about others and hook up others. These aunties usually have no aunties of their own and this should be your LAST RESORT!!
Internet (marriage websites) - danger, meeting anyone online it can be hazardous. It involves no mehram .
MSA (muslim student association) - Connects sisters and brothers. Parents need to realise that there is no shurah meeting at 5pm on a friday. The organization involves no parent.
4 Advices
Emotion of love is the strongest feeling that you will ever feel. It overrides all other emotions and leads to a type of madness. Becareful of others and God. Try to make it a reality if in love and have a proper nikkah.
Brothers, make sure you take care of your muslim sisters and that she has blood brothers and parents that do take care of her so you take care of her to. Women have power of men and a wali must approve.
Parents, different were they came from and cant expect kids to be raised like they did. It is a differnet country and you should talk about issues with your kid and be a sympathetic friend before a parentwith your children.
Love is not a crime, it is not unnatural. It is necessary and is not prohibited in Islam. "There is nothing better to do than two couples to get married." (hadeeth)
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6 comments:
Awesome notes Saqib!! I especially like the "Hook up Aunties" part ahahah. Nice to see the blog back dude.
This sounds a lot like a lecture Yasir Qadri gave at RIS...the title is even the same...
I'm an idiot - didn't see you cited RIS on your first post :)
OH SAQIB. hook up aunties, anyone?
theres a lot of talk about marriage here in 2008, should we start looking for wedding presents soon? =P
I'm happy I missed this lecture then o_O
Uhm, so I just got an email saying we have an MSA meeting Friday at 7PM. Should I be worried or something?
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